116. Rupture and Repair
It’s January, and maybe you’re starting the year off with a new habit, goal, or focus.
Maybe you have a vision of the new year being a time of magical transition where you embrace this new way of being and everything goes according to plan.
But then, life interrupts.
You find yourself slipping back into old ways of doing things.
You find yourself acting like you did in December 2022 instead of in the ways you wanted to call into being in 2023.
You start to get a little disheartened.
This change shit isn’t working.
You feel doomed.
Why even try, right?
It’s not working.
But…
It can work.
And you don’t have to be perfect in order for it to do so.
There’s something so alluring about things changing all at once.
But that’s not how things usually go.
You will have wobbles. And that’s ok.
Wobbles are part of a successful shift from one way of being to another.
No matter how perfect you try to be, living life as a human is full of fuck ups.
There are mistakes, problems, and things that go wrong.
But don’t let that get you down.
Instead, let those fuck ups be part of your journey forward.
Let them be part of you building a wildly satisfying life, not proof that you’re incapable of doing so.
Things go badly in life sometimes, no matter how hard you try.
That’s why repair is such a critical skill when it comes to creating a life that deeply delights you.
Giving yourself permission to embrace the pattern of rupture and repair might just be the best thing to move you forward in 2023.
Tune in to learn more about repair and why it’s so important for building a life and career that knocks your socks off.
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WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:
What the concept of rupture and repair means.
How to use the tool of rupture and repair as it relates to your career, habits, and personal relationships.
Why the idea of rupture and repair can bring you so much relief in life.
What’s alluring about doing things perfectly in the new year.
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This week we’re talking about rupture and repair.
You are listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It, the podcast for ambitious, high-achieving women who are ready to stop feeling stressed about work and kiss burnout goodbye forever. Whether you’re starting a business or staying in your day job, this show will give you the coaching and guidance you need to start loving your work today. Here’s your host, Career Coach, Kori Linn.
Hey y’all, happy Wednesday, it’s so nice to talk to you. I know that from your experience we talk every week. But from my experience I’m just coming back from holiday vacation, and I took a few weeks off of podcasting and work and just kind of chilled, honestly.
I didn’t do a lot of anything. I didn’t plan a lot of social stuff, I did a few social things. But mostly I just slept like 10 hours a night, took long walks, made some food, ate a lot of food. It was lovely. It was a really fun time. And today is my first official day back at work when I’m recording this.
And it’s the new year and there’s all the New Year stuff going on. And that’s why I wanted to record this podcast for you to talk about rupture and repair. And we’re going to talk about rupture and repair in a few different ways. But one of the things that I think is really relevant to it being January and the beginning of a new year, and a time when a lot of people try to start new habits or add new things to our lives or do things differently, is this idea of rupture and repair.
So for me, and for a lot of my clients, we want to do things perfectly. We want all kinds of stuff to happen perfectly. There’s just something very alluring about that idea that it can all go well, and all be perfect. And usually what’s alluring about it is that we’ll be proud of ourselves, we’ll be able to think nice things about ourselves, it’ll all finally be working, we’ll get to feel worthy, blah, blah, blah.
So I think that this is an important topic anytime, of year, but I think the new year is an especially good time to talk about it because of the way that we start things in the new year, or sometimes we have this vision of like what the new year is going to be like or who we’re going to be in the new year. And then a little bit into the new year, you know, life starts lifing and things get imperfect.
And sometimes we just get so frustrated that things aren’t as perfect as we wanted them to be, that then we just get the fuck it effect and like stop doing it or give up on it or whatever. And so that’s why I thought that this would be a really perfect time to talk about this.
So this concept, rupture, and repair, basically the idea is that things will go wrong. Things will go wrong. Things will go badly. People are not always going to do what we want them to do. We’re not always going to do what we want ourselves to do or what we think we should do. All of us in life make mistakes, right?
And even when we do try so hard to be perfect, sometimes in retrospect we get new information, and it really throws a different light on what we’ve done. Or sometimes it’s just like we’re not able to do something well, or we’re not able to do it perfectly.
Or like there was a time a few years ago where, I don’t know, Alex was doing like some kind of workout, and she injured her ankle. And then she like wasn’t able to do the workout for a little bit. And I remember at the time I actually asked her if I could record a podcast where I talked about it. And I might have talked about it on the podcast, but I’m not even actually sure if I ever did that. But I know I got her permission, so I feel fine telling y’all about it now.
But basically she was so frustrated because she had this like perfect streak going. And she was so bummed, but like she was injured, right? She wasn’t going to be able to keep up the workout, whatever it was. And I remember talking to her about it and saying like, what if there’s something better than a perfect record? Like what if having an injury and recovering from the injury and then getting back into the habit, like what if that’s better?
And I think that’s a really wild idea for a lot of us. A lot of us, we think like the best thing that we could ever have is like a perfect streak. The best thing we could ever have is a perfect record. But what if it’s not? Like what if it’s actually more interesting and more amazing when we lose track of something, we get an injury, we like fall off the wagon or whatever the phrase is, and then we come back to it?
And with relationships also it’s like I think a lot of times, especially with like TV and movies and books, we get this idea that like an amazing relationship is a relationship with no conflict. But relationships have conflict, right? And especially if we’re really close to people, in my experience the closer we are to them the more conflict we have I have and that’s just part of it.
Can you imagine if you had like a marriage or a relationship with a significant other or even your best friend and you’re like, well, we had a fight so now it’s over, it’s ruined. But that’s how a lot of people treat a lot of things. Like a lot of their habits, a lot of their goals. And I do see people treat their relationships like that sometimes, and I’m sure I’ve done it too, so this is like not a dig at all.
But what I really want to offer you is this idea that having the perfect streak isn’t the thing to aim for. And that’s not like the place to try to get to, because that’s just perfectionism and none of us are perfect. And what if like the ultimate goal and the ultimate beauty of life is being able to repair not being able to create something that’s perfect?
Okay, so how does this apply to you? So, this is a podcast about career, and I think career is a big place where rupture and repair is an amazing toolkit to have because we get into disagreements with people at work. We fuck things up at work. We snap at our boss. We snap at our colleague, right? We make a mistake on a big project.
And if we let that mean everything is ruined and we’re fucked, that makes having a career like a very intense high stakes, uncomfortable, unpleasant thing to do. Whereas if we see our career as a place where we are able and allowed to have ruptures and then we can repair, then everything is something that can move us forward towards our goals, towards our dreams, and towards the more advanced skill sets that we’re trying to build as we go about growing our career and developing professionally.
I think for me, as a recovering perfectionist and a recovering people pleaser, there’s so much relief in this idea. There’s such a relaxation, a like dropping off my shoulders, a mellowing of my whole energy when I give myself permission to not be perfect.
Which is so funny because it’s not like I was ever perfect anyways. But when I think I have to be, then I’m just like an anxiety roller coaster inside all the time and everything feels so important and so high stakes. And it’s like so difficult to let life be what it is, since life is full of ruptures, full of problems, full of mistakes and things that go wrong.
When I give myself permission to be imperfect and when I pitch myself on this idea that the most important thing I can ever do, the most beautiful thing I can ever do is actually to like figure out what to do when things go wrong and that that is the good thing, that that’s the good part, there’s such a relaxation for me.
And that’s what I want for you too, because trying to be perfect in your career is exhausting. Trying to be perfect in your career is a recipe for burnout because you can never do enough, you can never do well enough to create perfection, because that’s just not what we do. That’s not in the human capacity, right?
So this idea of like, oh, it doesn’t have to be perfect, and when it’s not perfect, when it’s inevitably not perfect, I actually have a special skill set for that, I have this skill set of repair. That is such a relief and such a gift.
And, again, at work it can be with people that we have relationships with. It could be with our work, like we make a mistake and then we have to go fix the mistake. That may also involve talking to people about how we made the mistake. There’s also like rupture and repair when sometimes we choose to like leave an organization or a team. We take a risk, we take a new job, we take a new position and then we want to circle back.
I love the idea that just because you leave a team, or leave an industry, or leave a company it doesn’t mean you could never go back there. Because even if there was a rupture when you left you have the skill set and the ability to repair that and to bring things back together and to create something stronger, more beautiful, more aligned, more in service to you, potentially more in service to the team, more in service to everybody all at once.
And it’s not about like staying and having that perfect streak of having been on the team for 12 years. Sometimes you leaving and then repairing or coming back is the thing that makes that next iteration so beautiful and such a good fit for people.
Because as much as we don’t like conflict, as much as we don’t like rupture, there’s so much good information in that. And when we can go to that place, we really can build something that works more deeply for everyone because once we admit that what was happening wasn’t working, then it opens up the possibilities for what could happen.
Okay, so that’s work. Now, another place rupture and repair is really useful is like habits, right? Again, at the beginning of the episode we were talking about like it’s the new year, a lot of people want to do new habits in the new year, new habits, or new goals. Guess what? Starting a new habit is fucking hard.
That doesn’t mean it’s not doable. Like I am the first person to be like, yes, it’s possible. Anything’s possible. Let’s fucking do it, let’s go. But humans, we operate out of habit a lot. And to build a new habit requires skills, and it requires practice and patience. And it often requires lots of fuck ups, which a lot of us don’t have a lot of ability to tolerate.
So one of the things we work on when you come work with me one on one or in my small group is we work on that ability to tolerate when things don’t go well, because usually that skill is really important and necessary for anything you want to create that you haven’t already created. Whether it’s getting a new job, or getting a promotion, or a raise, or something else in your life, in another area that’s not work or like a habit that’s not work related, right?
So rupture and repair is so great when you are building that new habit. Let’s say you want to get up and meditate every day before work. Like that’s the habit you want to build in 2023 and you’re like, I’m going to do it every day. And then on January 6th you accidentally slept through your alarm, and you didn’t do it, right?
So if you’re like in a perfectionist mindset about it, you’re like, well it’s ruined. It’s all ruined, like everything’s ruined. 2023 is ruined, January is ruined. Versus like, oh, I had a rupture in my habit and I’m just going to repair and I’m going to bring myself back to the habit. And I’m not going to go into the fuck it effect, I’m just going to be like, yeah, great, that’s part of it.
So repair is a skill set and it’s something that we do, but it’s also a mindset in that it’s about letting things be imperfect and still believing that they can be good, beautiful, beneficial, all those other words that we like. All those other things that we’re craving in our life. Everything we want from perfection, I think, is actually available through repair, since life is full of fucking ruptures all of the time.
Okay, let’s talk about another area this tool set is really useful, and that’s in personal relationships. Work relationships are relationships and they’re still hard. But I think personal relationships often have a lot more rupture because we come home after working all day and we’re like kind of tired, maybe kind of cranky.
I don’t know about you, but for me the person I actually have the most ruptures with is my significant other, Alex, because we live together, and we see each other all the time. We see each other when we’re tired, and when we’re sick, and when we’re cranky, so we have a lot of ruptures.
And being in a relationship with Alex for like five and a half years now has really been a masterclass in like how to repair from a rupture and how to build a relationship that’s even more beautiful for having had the rupture. Versus like telling myself that the most beautiful version of our relationship is the one where we’ve never had a fight yet.
I just don’t like that sales pitch because, first of all, that part of the relationship only lasted for like two months. And second of all, it just doesn’t feel like that includes any space for my full humanity, Alex’s full humanity, like the full experience of what it means to be a human.
So whatever your personal relationships are, whether it’s a significant other, maybe your family of origin, friends, children, your parents, rupture, and repair is a great tool to be able to use. I mean, the rupture parts not the tool, like that’s just life, wee. But the repair part of the tool and understanding rupture as like not a problem.
Like it’s a problem but it’s not a problem. It’s a problem in that like it’s maybe something you don’t want to have for forever. But it’s not a problem in that it is part of what it means to live a human life and something that is manageable and handleable, and we have a skill set for that.
So what I want you to take away from this podcast, basically, is the idea that things don’t have to be perfect to be the best version of themselves. Things don’t have to be perfect to be good. Things don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Things don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful and wonderful, right?
I so want for you to have a wildly satisfying life and career, and since I believe that ruptures are part of life, I believe that learning the skill of repair is essential and that that’s something that’s going to help you take the human life you have and have a wildly wonderful experience of it.
So for today’s podcast, we’re not going to get into the nuts and bolts of how to actually repair. We have a whole other episode about apologies, and we have lots of episodes, like connection orientation, about like getting in touch with like what you actually want to create a situation and how to create it.
And I think those apply to situations where there have been ruptures too. And apologizing is one way to do a repair, and reorienting to connection or whatever it is you want to be oriented to is another way to move towards repair.
But the key takeaway for this episode really is just that things don’t have to be perfect to be perfect, right? So like what I mean there is they don’t have to be perfect in that like no ruptures have ever happened to be perfect in the like the delicious, deeply satisfying thing that’s going to be so wonderful for your life.
And if this idea is really thrilling, and if this idea is really like relieving, and the idea that you can be imperfect in your career and still have not just a good career, but a spectacular career. And the idea that you can be imperfect in your personal life and not have just like an okay personal life, but a spectacular personal life.
If that really lights you up then I want to invite you to come take this conversation deeper with me by hopping on a consult call with me where we can talk about working together one on one or working together in my small group, so that you can really talk through with me what that would look like for you and what would be possible for you when you coach with me and when you learn these skills really deeply and how to apply them in your life.
All right, that’s what I have for y’all this week. Have a lovely week and I will talk to you next time. Bye.
Thank you for listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It. We’ll have another episode for you next week. And in the meantime, if you’re feeling super fired up, head on over to korilinn.com for more guidance and resources.
You are listening to Love Your Job Before You Leave It, the podcast for ambitious, high-achieving women who are ready to stop feeling stressed about work and kiss burnout goodbye forever. Whether you’re starting a business or staying in your day job, this show will give you the coaching and guidance you need to start loving your work today. Here’s your host, Career Coach, Kori Linn.
Hey y’all, happy Wednesday, it’s so nice to talk to you. I know that from your experience we talk every week. But from my experience I’m just coming back from holiday vacation, and I took a few weeks off of podcasting and work and just kind of chilled, honestly.
I didn’t do a lot of anything. I didn’t plan a lot of social stuff, I did a few social things. But mostly I just slept like 10 hours a night, took long walks, made some food, ate a lot of food. It was lovely. It was a really fun time. And today is my first official day back at work when I’m recording this.
And it’s the new year and there’s all the New Year stuff going on. And that’s why I wanted to record this podcast for you to talk about rupture and repair. And we’re going to talk about rupture and repair in a few different ways. But one of the things that I think is really relevant to it being January and the beginning of a new year, and a time when a lot of people try to start new habits or add new things to our lives or do things differently, is this idea of rupture and repair.
So for me, and for a lot of my clients, we want to do things perfectly. We want all kinds of stuff to happen perfectly. There’s just something very alluring about that idea that it can all go well, and all be perfect. And usually what’s alluring about it is that we’ll be proud of ourselves, we’ll be able to think nice things about ourselves, it’ll all finally be working, we’ll get to feel worthy, blah, blah, blah.
So I think that this is an important topic anytime, of year, but I think the new year is an especially good time to talk about it because of the way that we start things in the new year, or sometimes we have this vision of like what the new year is going to be like or who we’re going to be in the new year. And then a little bit into the new year, you know, life starts lifing and things get imperfect.
And sometimes we just get so frustrated that things aren’t as perfect as we wanted them to be, that then we just get the fuck it effect and like stop doing it or give up on it or whatever. And so that’s why I thought that this would be a really perfect time to talk about this.
So this concept, rupture, and repair, basically the idea is that things will go wrong. Things will go wrong. Things will go badly. People are not always going to do what we want them to do. We’re not always going to do what we want ourselves to do or what we think we should do. All of us in life make mistakes, right?
And even when we do try so hard to be perfect, sometimes in retrospect we get new information, and it really throws a different light on what we’ve done. Or sometimes it’s just like we’re not able to do something well, or we’re not able to do it perfectly.
Or like there was a time a few years ago where, I don’t know, Alex was doing like some kind of workout, and she injured her ankle. And then she like wasn’t able to do the workout for a little bit. And I remember at the time I actually asked her if I could record a podcast where I talked about it. And I might have talked about it on the podcast, but I’m not even actually sure if I ever did that. But I know I got her permission, so I feel fine telling y’all about it now.
But basically she was so frustrated because she had this like perfect streak going. And she was so bummed, but like she was injured, right? She wasn’t going to be able to keep up the workout, whatever it was. And I remember talking to her about it and saying like, what if there’s something better than a perfect record? Like what if having an injury and recovering from the injury and then getting back into the habit, like what if that’s better?
And I think that’s a really wild idea for a lot of us. A lot of us, we think like the best thing that we could ever have is like a perfect streak. The best thing we could ever have is a perfect record. But what if it’s not? Like what if it’s actually more interesting and more amazing when we lose track of something, we get an injury, we like fall off the wagon or whatever the phrase is, and then we come back to it?
And with relationships also it’s like I think a lot of times, especially with like TV and movies and books, we get this idea that like an amazing relationship is a relationship with no conflict. But relationships have conflict, right? And especially if we’re really close to people, in my experience the closer we are to them the more conflict we have I have and that’s just part of it.
Can you imagine if you had like a marriage or a relationship with a significant other or even your best friend and you’re like, well, we had a fight so now it’s over, it’s ruined. But that’s how a lot of people treat a lot of things. Like a lot of their habits, a lot of their goals. And I do see people treat their relationships like that sometimes, and I’m sure I’ve done it too, so this is like not a dig at all.
But what I really want to offer you is this idea that having the perfect streak isn’t the thing to aim for. And that’s not like the place to try to get to, because that’s just perfectionism and none of us are perfect. And what if like the ultimate goal and the ultimate beauty of life is being able to repair not being able to create something that’s perfect?
Okay, so how does this apply to you? So, this is a podcast about career, and I think career is a big place where rupture and repair is an amazing toolkit to have because we get into disagreements with people at work. We fuck things up at work. We snap at our boss. We snap at our colleague, right? We make a mistake on a big project.
And if we let that mean everything is ruined and we’re fucked, that makes having a career like a very intense high stakes, uncomfortable, unpleasant thing to do. Whereas if we see our career as a place where we are able and allowed to have ruptures and then we can repair, then everything is something that can move us forward towards our goals, towards our dreams, and towards the more advanced skill sets that we’re trying to build as we go about growing our career and developing professionally.
I think for me, as a recovering perfectionist and a recovering people pleaser, there’s so much relief in this idea. There’s such a relaxation, a like dropping off my shoulders, a mellowing of my whole energy when I give myself permission to not be perfect.
Which is so funny because it’s not like I was ever perfect anyways. But when I think I have to be, then I’m just like an anxiety roller coaster inside all the time and everything feels so important and so high stakes. And it’s like so difficult to let life be what it is, since life is full of ruptures, full of problems, full of mistakes and things that go wrong.
When I give myself permission to be imperfect and when I pitch myself on this idea that the most important thing I can ever do, the most beautiful thing I can ever do is actually to like figure out what to do when things go wrong and that that is the good thing, that that’s the good part, there’s such a relaxation for me.
And that’s what I want for you too, because trying to be perfect in your career is exhausting. Trying to be perfect in your career is a recipe for burnout because you can never do enough, you can never do well enough to create perfection, because that’s just not what we do. That’s not in the human capacity, right?
So this idea of like, oh, it doesn’t have to be perfect, and when it’s not perfect, when it’s inevitably not perfect, I actually have a special skill set for that, I have this skill set of repair. That is such a relief and such a gift.
And, again, at work it can be with people that we have relationships with. It could be with our work, like we make a mistake and then we have to go fix the mistake. That may also involve talking to people about how we made the mistake. There’s also like rupture and repair when sometimes we choose to like leave an organization or a team. We take a risk, we take a new job, we take a new position and then we want to circle back.
I love the idea that just because you leave a team, or leave an industry, or leave a company it doesn’t mean you could never go back there. Because even if there was a rupture when you left you have the skill set and the ability to repair that and to bring things back together and to create something stronger, more beautiful, more aligned, more in service to you, potentially more in service to the team, more in service to everybody all at once.
And it’s not about like staying and having that perfect streak of having been on the team for 12 years. Sometimes you leaving and then repairing or coming back is the thing that makes that next iteration so beautiful and such a good fit for people.
Because as much as we don’t like conflict, as much as we don’t like rupture, there’s so much good information in that. And when we can go to that place, we really can build something that works more deeply for everyone because once we admit that what was happening wasn’t working, then it opens up the possibilities for what could happen.
Okay, so that’s work. Now, another place rupture and repair is really useful is like habits, right? Again, at the beginning of the episode we were talking about like it’s the new year, a lot of people want to do new habits in the new year, new habits, or new goals. Guess what? Starting a new habit is fucking hard.
That doesn’t mean it’s not doable. Like I am the first person to be like, yes, it’s possible. Anything’s possible. Let’s fucking do it, let’s go. But humans, we operate out of habit a lot. And to build a new habit requires skills, and it requires practice and patience. And it often requires lots of fuck ups, which a lot of us don’t have a lot of ability to tolerate.
So one of the things we work on when you come work with me one on one or in my small group is we work on that ability to tolerate when things don’t go well, because usually that skill is really important and necessary for anything you want to create that you haven’t already created. Whether it’s getting a new job, or getting a promotion, or a raise, or something else in your life, in another area that’s not work or like a habit that’s not work related, right?
So rupture and repair is so great when you are building that new habit. Let’s say you want to get up and meditate every day before work. Like that’s the habit you want to build in 2023 and you’re like, I’m going to do it every day. And then on January 6th you accidentally slept through your alarm, and you didn’t do it, right?
So if you’re like in a perfectionist mindset about it, you’re like, well it’s ruined. It’s all ruined, like everything’s ruined. 2023 is ruined, January is ruined. Versus like, oh, I had a rupture in my habit and I’m just going to repair and I’m going to bring myself back to the habit. And I’m not going to go into the fuck it effect, I’m just going to be like, yeah, great, that’s part of it.
So repair is a skill set and it’s something that we do, but it’s also a mindset in that it’s about letting things be imperfect and still believing that they can be good, beautiful, beneficial, all those other words that we like. All those other things that we’re craving in our life. Everything we want from perfection, I think, is actually available through repair, since life is full of fucking ruptures all of the time.
Okay, let’s talk about another area this tool set is really useful, and that’s in personal relationships. Work relationships are relationships and they’re still hard. But I think personal relationships often have a lot more rupture because we come home after working all day and we’re like kind of tired, maybe kind of cranky.
I don’t know about you, but for me the person I actually have the most ruptures with is my significant other, Alex, because we live together, and we see each other all the time. We see each other when we’re tired, and when we’re sick, and when we’re cranky, so we have a lot of ruptures.
And being in a relationship with Alex for like five and a half years now has really been a masterclass in like how to repair from a rupture and how to build a relationship that’s even more beautiful for having had the rupture. Versus like telling myself that the most beautiful version of our relationship is the one where we’ve never had a fight yet.
I just don’t like that sales pitch because, first of all, that part of the relationship only lasted for like two months. And second of all, it just doesn’t feel like that includes any space for my full humanity, Alex’s full humanity, like the full experience of what it means to be a human.
So whatever your personal relationships are, whether it’s a significant other, maybe your family of origin, friends, children, your parents, rupture, and repair is a great tool to be able to use. I mean, the rupture parts not the tool, like that’s just life, wee. But the repair part of the tool and understanding rupture as like not a problem.
Like it’s a problem but it’s not a problem. It’s a problem in that like it’s maybe something you don’t want to have for forever. But it’s not a problem in that it is part of what it means to live a human life and something that is manageable and handleable, and we have a skill set for that.
So what I want you to take away from this podcast, basically, is the idea that things don’t have to be perfect to be the best version of themselves. Things don’t have to be perfect to be good. Things don’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Things don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful and wonderful, right?
I so want for you to have a wildly satisfying life and career, and since I believe that ruptures are part of life, I believe that learning the skill of repair is essential and that that’s something that’s going to help you take the human life you have and have a wildly wonderful experience of it.
So for today’s podcast, we’re not going to get into the nuts and bolts of how to actually repair. We have a whole other episode about apologies, and we have lots of episodes, like connection orientation, about like getting in touch with like what you actually want to create a situation and how to create it.
And I think those apply to situations where there have been ruptures too. And apologizing is one way to do a repair, and reorienting to connection or whatever it is you want to be oriented to is another way to move towards repair.
But the key takeaway for this episode really is just that things don’t have to be perfect to be perfect, right? So like what I mean there is they don’t have to be perfect in that like no ruptures have ever happened to be perfect in the like the delicious, deeply satisfying thing that’s going to be so wonderful for your life.
And if this idea is really thrilling, and if this idea is really like relieving, and the idea that you can be imperfect in your career and still have not just a good career, but a spectacular career. And the idea that you can be imperfect in your personal life and not have just like an okay personal life, but a spectacular personal life.
If that really lights you up then I want to invite you to come take this conversation deeper with me by hopping on a consult call with me where we can talk about working together one on one or working together in my small group, so that you can really talk through with me what that would look like for you and what would be possible for you when you coach with me and when you learn these skills really deeply and how to apply them in your life.
All right, that’s what I have for y’all this week. Have a lovely week and I will talk to you next time. Bye.
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