Apologies can be anything you want them to be. And this week, I’m showing you how to apologize in a way that feels authentic to you and how to ensure that you’re not apologizing for anything you don’t want to apologize for.

Discover an internal self-guidance system to start experiencing more of what you actually want, even in difficult situations. Whether you’re working towards connection, satisfaction, or anything else, you get to decide how you orient yourself, and I’m showing you how in today’s episode.

The truth is, we never know with 100% certainty how things are going to turn out. We are going to experience regret in our lives. Avoiding regret does not work, so how can we make decisions without the fear of regret?

I know my clients have a lot of anger about things that happen at work. They find situations frustrating, disrespectful, they feel ignored, or overworked. And yeah, this makes people angry. This spicy information can lead us to act in ways that don’t align with our values or who we want to be as a person.

Personally, I want to be connected. I want to have people I trust that I collaborate with, who are part of my journey. I want to be a part of a connected group with other human beings, and I know I’m not alone with these desires. We can use the concept of the heroine’s journey to create connection and support through our work.

I know the podcast is called Love Your Job Before You Leave It, but if you’re in a job that you don’t love, you don’t want to learn to love it, and you want to leave it, that’s totally fine too. You are the agency and authority in your own life. So, whatever the reason is that you’re looking for a new job, or considering doing so, I’m here to help.

Our brains love to go to the worst-case scenario, but in this episode, I’m showing you the other side when it comes to taking a risk. I’m giving you some questions to ask yourself to discover why your risk could be a win-win, explaining why your brain always wants to go to the familiar, and how you can decide when the time is right for you to take a risk.

There’s a thought that when you have the right colleagues, boss, paycheck, or work culture, that’s when things will change and you’ll feel real satisfaction at work. However, career satisfaction is a habit, not a destination. It’s a practice and a way of being, not a place you arrive at when the things around you change. This may sound a little out there to some of you but go with me on this.

Trying to change from a place of judgment never works, so I’m showing you how to give yourself the space and softness that you need to actually change. Tune in this week to start seeing what you want to leave behind in 2021. You will also discover how to make the internal shift that will show you how possible it is to leave something behind, and decide what you want to pick up in 2022 instead.

I’m sharing some strategies we can use to actually empty our brains out and set ourselves up for a better night’s sleep, and also how to think about sleep, whether you’re getting it or not. And while I’m talking about sleep from the coaching angle today, there are tons of other resources out there when it comes to getting better sleep, and I’m sharing those too.

The idea of building a career you actually want might sound obvious at first. Of course this is what we should be doing. But I see people building careers they don’t actually want to be in all the time. By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to decide what you really want for your career, so you can start making changes in an effective and sustainable way.

When it comes to evaluating your own performance in your life, you have the opportunity to review yourself in an honest but helpful way that focuses on what is working. So, tune in this week to discover how to use the information in your performance reviews in a way that’s actually useful and see how you can move towards your career or personal goals in the coming year.

Delegation is something that my clients often want coaching on. They’re in a position where they’re either delegating, or they’re being delegated to, or both. And it’s really useful to think about it through the lens of coaching.

Tune in this week to discover the thought work we can do when we’re not willing to question our thoughts on something. Even if you don’t agree with the way something is, you can still choose how you show up. So, instead of being stuck in this pit of despair, what are you going to do about it?

If you think about a rubber band, their job is to stretch. If we stretch a rubber band so far that it breaks, the rubber band is no longer useful to us. And the same can be said for the work we do on ourselves. When we stretch ourselves too far, it doesn’t actually help us in the long run.

How do you know when discomfort is bringing you closer to your dream life and helping you create a career that delights you, and when it isn’t actually helping anything? You get to decide the answer for yourself. And in this episode, I’m sharing how you can get curious and question yourself to see whether the discomfort you feel is helping you create something you want, or if it’s just plain uncomfortable and it sucks.

If you believe you’re not good enough because you’re just not good, of course you won’t want to dive too deeply into that. But when you see that your imposter syndrome comes from growing up in a flawed, sexist, ableist, white-supremacist culture that directly or indirectly informed your opinions of yourself, then looking at these thoughts sounds much more compelling, right?

Self-sabotage is a topic I’ve wanted to talk about on the podcast for a long time, but I told myself I didn’t have enough education on it or my thoughts weren’t well-formed enough, which was just my perfectionism stopping me… which is actually a form of self-sabotage… which is kind of meta.

Even if you have the Sunday Scaries now and you’ve always had them, it doesn’t mean you always have to have them. Whatever the reason you are experiencing the Sunday Scaries, we can address it all by looking at how we’re thinking about work, leisure, and how we spend our time.

In most of our childhoods, we’re taught to say yes, not no, to follow directions, do what we’re told, and be agreeable. And this is especially true for people socialized as women and other marginalized identities. So, it’s no surprise that saying no doesn’t always feel comfortable.